Until I meet any obviously fake human beings — and I think they’d have to be held together with glue, or have the eyes painted on, or really be dolls or slugs or something — I think all people, not to mention fans, nerds, geeks and suchlike are real.
Some people haven’t read/seen/done as much as others. Some people haven’t been around as long. Some people wear T-shirts without knowing everything about what the T-shirt represents. But they are still real, and (and this is the important bit) everybody starts somewhere.
People at my signings sometimes tell me, apologetically, that they aren’t real fans, they’ve only read one book or a single comic, not like the people who know every obscure reference I make and win quizzes on my life and times that I would probably fail. And I tell them I’m glad they read the book. And I am.
Oh, Neil Gaiman, I am so very fond of you.
The assumption is that Geek/Nerd culture would be an inclusive one as it has often been the culture of outcasts is sadly not always the case. I’ve been very fortunate to find a group of nerdy friends who are very inclusive, but I also have felt that I am not geeky/nerdy enough while attending a convention or an event. I’ve hesitated to wear a costume because I worry about people quizzing me on my knowledge of that thing, picking out the flaws or inaccuracies in the costume or assuming that I’m wearing that thing for male attention. This is strongly related to the specific "Fake Geek Girl" thing where there is a false assumption that a girl is wearing/attending something geeky/nerdy not because she loves said thing, but because she has an ulterior, non-geeky/nerdy motive (she wants sex, she wants a boyfriend, blah blah blah).
I think this issue is important to all women, not just those of us that love Lord of the Rings, Harry Potter, Doctor Who, Legend of Korra (post forthcoming), Game of Thrones, etc, etc, etc. This is an issue where women feel that they cannot be themselves when they have every right to feel comfortable in their own skin. What to be muscular and functionally strong? Want to let your geek/nerd flag fly? What to shave your head? Want to be the breadwinner? Want to be who you are? Do it. And support others to do it.
Because in my world, being bulky isn’t a bad thing. I am not a fan of the “don’t worry, lifting won’t make you bulky and manly” trend those fitblr gals and guys spew all over tumblr, because 1) some girls do get bulky, 2) being bulky does not equal looking manly and aesthetically displeasing, and 3) I do not lift for aesthetics. I love my beefy shoulders. My friends can cry on them when they’re sad, and have you any idea how good I am at huggin’? Embrace the bulk, it’s fabulous.
And I LOVE this response.
for real I just went on a giant unfollowing spree
so I need to amp up my dash!!
also, even if I already follow you, feel free to reblog this so I find even more blogs to follow :)